Neuroscientists have learned a bulk of what they know about the human brain not by studying the brains of healthy people, but by studying the brain’s of people where something had gone drastically wrong. When it comes to self improvement, I take a similar approach. Though I do my best to study the people who I consider to be successful, I have learned some of my most valuable lessons from those whom I consider to be failures.
We all have dreams and goals that we want to achieve in our lives. Some of us actually achieve these goals, and some of us just don’t. That’s the harsh reality. So what are the people who don’t achieve their goals doing wrong? There can be hundreds of reasons different reasons for any one individual’s failures, but one of the most common traits amongst failures is that they tend to focus on what they don’t have and can’t do instead of what focusing on what they do have and can do.
They will often say things like “You need money to make money,” or “If I had _______, then I’d be able to do it.” They what seems to be an infinite amount of problems little to no solutions. Why is this? It’s because excuses are much easier to come up with than solutions are.
The real solution to their problem is to work with what they have, instead of complaining about what they don’t. Talking about what can’t be done won’t take you anywhere, while talking about what could be done can work wonders.
Basically, these people lack the ability to think creatively. A creative person will think about all the things and people in their life, and then find a way to make them work together towards achieving a certain goal. Instead of complaining about what is stopping them, they will identify the problem and work towards finding its solution.
If it is money they need and don’t currently have, they will think of ways to make money. They will look around the house to see what they can sell for some extra cash. They will get a second job. They will find people who can lend them money. In other words, they will do whatever it takes to reach their goals.
Thinking about what you can do instead of what you can’t do is not only productive, it also puts you in a more positive state of mind which is essential for health and success. If you choose to work with what you have, you will eventually get what you don’t. If you choose to just complain to people about how this and that are ruining your chances of success, you can be sure you’ll never have anything but the pity of others.
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It would be like that whatever given to us by almighty we are satisfied with that and not be complaining