I’ve done it. You’ve done. I think its safe to say that at one point or another we’ve all done it. But what benefit does making excuses give us? Sure, we may get away with something here and there but in the end it only hurts us. Because when we make excuses (knowingly or not) we are lying to others but more importantly we are lying to ourselves.
The fact is: Everything you are unhappy with in your life right now is your fault. Yes, I said it. It’s your fault. If you’re thinking of excuses (or “reasons”) in your head right now, this article is for you! I can already hear all the people who will read that and start saying things like “I get what your saying…..but…. (some lame excuse).” I am sure a lot of people feel that their excuses are legitimate. But it doesn’t matter whether they’re legitimate or not, they are still excuses.
Why is it your fault? Because you have a choice. Every single day you have a choice. Don’t like your job? Then quit. Sure the consequences may not be to your liking, but understand that the choice is yours to make. There is no denying that fact. Don’t have enough money? Get a second job. Start a business. Stop spending money on stupid things. You see where I am going with this?
It’s sad to see people get in their own way because of the excuses they so stubbornly cling onto. Here are just a few I have heard people say:
- I don’t have enough time
- I didn’t graduate
- I grew up in a bad environment
- I don’t have enough money
- My teacher doesn’t like me
- The cop didn’t like me
- The game is against me
- I didn’t have mentors
- I don’t have a home gym
- Blah blah blah
Now, I am not saying that these excuses don’t make it harder to succeed in something. Of course they do. Everything else being equal, if one person has to “overcome” any of these excuses where another person does not, that person has a reduced chance of success comparatively. But that’s the problem. We are too intelligent of creatures to let circumstance dictate our lives. We have to learn to overcome whatever is thrown at us. As James Allen said “Circumstance does not make the man, it merely reveals him to himself.”
It’s a sign of a weak person to make excuses, and even worse to actually believe them. Because no matter what excuse you have, somebody in the world has had it far worse than you and overcame it. And if they can do it, so can you. And that is really what it comes down to: self confidence. If a person doesn’t believe they can do something even though someone who was at a much bigger handicap did, then the chances of success are slim. But if you can read this, and understand what I am saying, then you have the intelligence to be able to overcome whatever “excuse” you are currently using to explain your lack of success. But it all depends on if you are willing to stop making excuses, and start taking responsibility.