It has been a really long time since I’ve written anything on here, and I can assure you it isn’t due to a shortage of ideas. No, the reason why I don’t write anymore on this blog is because I resent it. Yep, I absolutely hate it. Don’t get me wrong, I love self improvement. I continue to work on improving myself every single day. I talk about my self improvement ideas with my friends and family until their ears bleed. So I can confidently say I haven’t lost my passion for it.

So if it isn’t a lack of passion, what is it? This is a question I’ve asked myself a lot over the last year. And I’ve finally figured it out: perfectionism. My perfectionism is what causes me to procrastinate writing anything. I’ve placed so many standards on my writing that I’ve taken something that I am supposed to enjoy and turned it into something I hate. What standards did I put on myself?

  • Each article must be 400-600 words long (for SEO purposes)
  • Make sure all grammar and punctuation is perfect
  • Article must have a clear introduction and conclusion
  • etc etc etc

Basically, I wanted myself to create articles that a school teacher would approve of. But this is a blog, this isn’t an essay. The main reason why I have this blog is to help as many people who are seeking to improve themselves as I can. And because my perfectionism ultimately prevents me from writing, I end up helping nobody at all.

So today, I am making a promise to you and to myself that I will no longer try to create perfect articles. I will try my best to make them good, but that’s it. My new mindset is if I write an article it only has to help one person. Meaning, of the thousands of page views each article gets overtime, only one of them has to actually benefit the reader. If just one person benefits, to me the time it took to write that article was well worth it.

So what’s the lesson you can take from all this? Understand that the perfect is the enemy of the good. I wanted to make “perfect” articles so much so that I ended up not writing as much as I would’ve liked (to avoid my inevitable disappointment). And looking at my traffic numbers, I can tell that I haven’t done a good job. I gave up the “good” for the “perfect.” And as a result, I got neither. I’m done doing this to myself, and you should be too.

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Neuroscientists have learned a bulk of what they know about the human brain not by studying the brains of healthy people, but by studying the brain’s of people where something had gone drastically wrong. When it comes to self improvement, I take a similar approach. Though I do my best to study the people who I consider to be successful, I have learned some of my most valuable lessons from those whom I consider to be failures.

We all have dreams and goals that we want to achieve in our lives. Some of us actually achieve these goals, and some of us just don’t. That’s the harsh reality. So what are the people who don’t achieve their goals doing wrong? There can be hundreds of reasons different reasons for any one individual’s failures, but one of the most common traits amongst failures is that they tend to focus on what they don’t have and can’t do instead of what focusing on what they do have and can do

They will often say things like “You need money to make money,” or “If I had _______, then I’d be able to do it.” They what seems to be an infinite amount of problems little to no solutions. Why is this? It’s because excuses are much easier to come up with than solutions are.

The real solution to their problem is to work with what they have, instead of complaining about what they don’t. Talking about what can’t be done won’t take you anywhere, while talking about what could be done can work wonders.

Basically, these people lack the ability to think creatively. A creative person will think about all the things and people in their life, and then find a way to make them work together towards achieving a certain goal. Instead of complaining about what is stopping them, they will identify the problem and work towards finding its solution.

If it is money they need and don’t currently have, they will think of ways to make money. They will look around the house to see what they can sell for some extra cash. They will get a second job. They will find people who can lend them money. In other words, they will do whatever it takes to reach their goals.

Thinking about what you can do instead of what you can’t do is not only productive, it also puts you in a more positive state of mind which is essential for health and success. If you choose to work with what you have, you will eventually get what you don’t. If you choose to just complain to people about how this and that are ruining your chances of success, you can be sure you’ll never have anything but the pity of others.

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Admit When You’re Wrong

Read the full article → August 27, 2011

Have you ever been in an argument with someone who just won’t admit that they’re wrong, no matter how hard you try to prove it? I bet you have. And you’ve probably, at some point or another, been that person too. Which begs the question: Why can’t people just admit that they’re wrong? It’s actually [...]

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Anything You Measure, You Can Improve

Read the full article → July 8, 2011

When it comes to gaining weight, most people don’t notice it adding on day by day. It may take a few weeks or even a few months, but all of the sudden you’ll step a scale and whoa! You’re ten pounds heavier than you were the last time you checked! Once you realize this, you’ll [...]

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How To Increase Willpower

Read the full article → June 18, 2011

When you do something you love to do, you feel as if you could do it all day long. It’s as if doing it takes almost no will power on your part. Unfortunately, the reality is that you’re not going to love doing everything you have to do in life. For example, I don’t love [...]

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Self Improvement System

Read the full article → May 29, 2011

A lot of us have heard of a swear jar. If you haven’t, just imagine a jar with a slit in its cap big enough to insert money into (sort of like a piggy bank). Parents have been using swear jars for decades. The idea behind the swear jar is simple: Every time someone in [...]

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How To Become More Passionate

Read the full article → May 14, 2011

We excel in the things that we are most passionate about. Look at the top performers in just about any field, from real estate moguls like Donald Trump to superstar athletes like Kobe Bryant, and you’ll notice that they are all extremely passionate about what they do. Since Kobe Bryant is one of my favorite [...]

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Cocky vs. Confident

Read the full article → April 12, 2011

They say there’s a thin line between being cocky and confident. And I agree with that 100%. There is a line, and it’s so thin that it crossing it can happen without you even noticing it. I would know, I’ve been called cocky more than a couple of times in my life. At first, it [...]

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Your Perception Is Your Reality

Read the full article → April 6, 2011

My brother-in-law and I have gotten into many debates about what he likes to call “California” drivers. See, we both live in California and whenever we are driving somewhere together I’ll usually hear him say something derogatory about another driver on the road. He says things like “this person is stupid” or “people are such [...]

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Focus Is The Key To Success

Read the full article → March 15, 2011

How many times have you gone on a diet but didn’t stick with it for as long as you planned? Or how many times have you tried to start saving money but ended up going back to your old spending habits after just a few weeks? Basically, what I’m asking is: How many times have [...]

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